WHO'S IN CHARGE HERE?
"A Lesson In Becoming Alpha"
By: Vicki Rodenberg De
Gruy

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"My dog just
tried to bite me! All I did was tell him to move over so I could sit
on the couch next to him."
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"My dog got into
the trash can and when I scolded her, she growled at me. What's wrong with
her? I thought she loved me!"
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"Our dog is very
affectionate most of the time but when we try to make him do something he
doesn't want to do, he snaps at us."
What do these three
dogs have in common? Are they nasty or downright vicious? No - they're
"alpha". They've taken
over the leadership of the families that love them. Instead of taking orders from
their people, these dogs are giving orders! Your dog can love you very much
and still try to dominate you or other members of your family.
Dogs are social
creatures and believers in social order. A dog's social system is a "pack"
with a well-defined pecking order.
The leader of the pack is the alpha, supreme boss, Top
Dog. He (or she) gets the
best of everything – the best food, the best place to sleep, the best toy,
etc. The leader also gets to
be first in everything - he gets to eat first, to leave first and to get
attention first. All the
other dogs in the pack respect the alpha dog's wishes. Any dog that challenges the
alpha's authority gets a swift physical reminder of just where his place
in the pack really is.
Your family is your
dog's "pack". Many dogs fit
easily into the lower levels of their human pack's pecking order and don't
make waves. They do what
they're told and don't challenge authority. Other dogs don't fit in quite as
well. Some of them are
natural born leaders and are always challenging their human alpha's. Other dogs are social climbers -
they're always looking for ways to get a little closer to the top of the
family ladder. These natural
leaders and the social climbers can become problems to an unsuspecting
family that's not aware of the dog's natural pack instincts.
Some families
encourage their dogs to take over the "pack" without realizing it. They treat their dogs as equals,
not as subordinates. They give them special privileges like being allowed
to sleep on the bed or couch.
They don't train their dogs and let them get away with disobeying
commands. In a real dog pack,
no one but the alpha dog would get this kind of treatment. Alpha doesn't have anything to do
with size. The tiniest
Chihuahua can be a canine Hitler.
In fact, the smaller the dog, the more people tend to baby them and
cater to them - making the dog feel even more dominant and in control of
his humans.
Alpha dogs often seem
to make good pets. They're
confident, smarter than average, and affectionate. They can be wonderful with
children and good with strangers.
Everything seems to be great with the relationship - until someone
crosses him or makes him do something he doesn't want to do. Then, suddenly, this wonderful dog
growls or tries to bite someone and no one understands why.
In a real dog pack,
the alpha dog doesn't have to answer to anyone. No one gives him orders or tells
him what to do. The other dogs in the pack respect his position. If another dog is foolish enough
to challenge the alpha by trying to take his bone or his favorite sleeping
place, the alpha dog will quickly put him in his place with a hard stare
or a growl. If this doesn't
work, the alpha dog will enforce
his leadership with his teeth.
This is all natural, instinctive behavior - in a dog's world. In a human family, though, this
behavior is unacceptable and dangerous.
Dogs need and want
leaders. They have an instinctive need to fit into a pack. They want the security of knowing
their place and what's expected of them. Most of them don't want to be
alpha - they want someone else to give the orders and make the
decisions. If his humans
don't provide that leadership, the dog will take over the role himself. If
you've allowed your dog to become alpha, you're at his mercy and as a
leader, he may be either a benevolent king or a tyrant!
If you think your dog
is alpha in your household, he probably is. If your dog respects only one or
two members of the family but dominates the others, you still have a
problem. The dog's place
should be at the -bottom- of your human family's pack order, not at the
top or somewhere in between.
In order to reclaim
your family's rightful place as leaders of the pack, your dog needs some
lessons in how to be a subordinate, not an equal. You're going to show him what it
means to be a dog again. Your
dog's mother showed him very early in life that -she- was alpha and that
he had to respect her. As a
puppy, he was given a secure place in his litter's pack and because of
that security, he was free to concentrate on growing, learning, playing,
loving and just being a dog.
Your dog doesn't really want the responsibility of being alpha,
having to make the decisions and defend his position at the top. He wants a leader to follow and
worship so he can have the freedom of just being a dog again.
How To Become Leader Of Your
Pack
Your dog watches you
constantly and reads your body language. He knows if you're insecure,
uncomfortable in a leadership role or won't enforce a command. This behavior confuses him, makes
-him- insecure and if he's a natural leader or has a social-climbing
personality, it'll encourage him to assume the alpha position and tell you
what to do.
"Alpha" is an
attitude. It involves quiet
confidence, dignity, intelligence, and an air of authority. A dog can
sense this attitude almost immediately - it's how his mother acted towards
him. Watch a professional
trainer or a good obedience instructor. They stand tall and use their
voices and eyes to project the idea that they're capable of getting what
they want. They're gentle but
firm, loving but tough, all at the same time. Most dogs are immediately
submissive towards this type of personality because they recognize and
respect alpha when they see it.
Practice being
alpha. Stand up straight with your
shoulders back. Walk
tall. Practice using a new
tone of voice, one that's deep and firm. Don't ask your dog to do something
- tell him. There's a
difference. He knows the
difference, too! Remember
that, as alpha, you're entitled to make the rules and give the
orders. Your dog understands
that instinctively.
With most dogs, just
this change in your attitude and an obedience-training course will be
enough to turn things around.
With a dog that's already taken over the household and has enforced
his position by growling or biting and has been allowed to get away with
it, you'll need to do more than just decide to be alpha. The dog is going to need an
attitude adjustment as well.
Natural leaders and
social climbers aren't going to want to give up their alpha position. Your sudden change in behavior is
going to shock and threaten them.
Your dog might act even more aggressively than before. An alpha dog will instinctively
respond to challenges to his authority. It's his nature to want to put
down revolutionary uprisings by the peasants! Don't worry, there's a way
around it.
An alpha dog already
knows that he can beat you in a physical fight so returning his aggression
with violence of your own won't work. Until you've successfully
established your position as alpha, corrections like hitting, shaking, or
using the "rollover" techniques described in some books will not work and
can be downright dangerous to you.
An alpha dog will respond to these methods with violence and you
could be seriously hurt.
What you need to do
is use your brain! You're
smarter than he is and you can out think him. You'll also need to be more
stubborn than he is. What I'm
about to describe here is an effective, non-violent method of removing
your dog from alpha status and putting him back at the bottom of the
family totem pole where he belongs and where he needs to be. In order for this method to work,
your whole family has to be involved. It requires an attitude adjustment
from everyone and a new way of working with your dog.
This is serious
business. A dog that bites or threatens
people is a dangerous dog, no matter how much you love him. If treating your dog like a dog
and not an equal seems harsh to you, keep in mind that our society no
longer tolerates dangerous dogs.
Lawsuits from dog bites are now settling for millions of dollars -
you could lose your home and everything else you own if your dog injures
someone. You or your children
could be permanently disfigured.
And your dog could lose his life. That's the bottom
line.
Canine Boot Camp for Alpha Attitude
Adjustment
From this day
forward, you're going to teach your dog that he is a dog, not a miniature human being in a furry
suit. His mother taught him
how to be a dog once and how to take orders. Along the way, through lack of
training or misunderstood intentions, he's forgotten. With your help, he's going
to remember what he is and how he fits into the world. Before long, he's
even going to like it!
Dogs were bred to
look to humans for food, companionship and guidance. An alpha dog doesn't ask for what
he wants, he demands it. He
lets you know in no uncertain terms that he wants his dinner, that he
wants to go out, that he wants to play and be petted and that he wants
these things right now.
You're going to teach him that from now on, he has to earn what he
gets. No more free rides. This is going to be a shock to his system at
first but you'll be surprised how quickly he'll catch on and that he'll
actually become eager to please you.
If your dog doesn't
already know the simple command SIT, teach it to him. Reward him with praise and a
tidbit. Don't go overboard with the praise. A simple "Good boy!" in a happy
voice is enough. Now, every
time your dog wants something - his dinner, a trip outside, a walk, some
attention, anything - tell him (remember don't ask him, tell him) to SIT
first. When he does, praise
him with a "Good Boy!", then tell him OKAY and give him whatever it is he
wants as a reward. If he
refuses to SIT, walk away and ignore him. No SIT, no reward.
If you don't think he
understands the command, work on his training some more. If he just doesn't want to obey,
ignore him - don't give him what he wants or reward him in any
fashion.
Make him sit before
giving him his dinner, make him sit at the door before going outside, make
him sit in front of you to be petted, make him sit before giving him his
toy. If you normally leave
food out for him all the time, stop.
Go to a twice daily feeding and you decide what time of day he'll
be fed. Make him sit for his
dinner. If he won't obey
the command - no dinner.
Walk away and ignore him.
Bring the food out later and tell him again to SIT. If he understands the command,
don't tell him more than once.
He heard you the first time.
Give commands from a standing position and use a deep, firm tone of
voice.
If the dog respects
certain members of the family but not others, let the others be the ones
to feed him and bring the good things to his life for now. Show them how to make him obey the
SIT command and how to walk away and ignore him if he won't do as he's
told. It's important that
your whole family follows this program. Dogs are like kids - if they can't
have their way with Mom, they'll go ask Dad. In your dog's case, if he finds a
member of the family that he can dominate, he'll continue to do so. You want your dog to learn that he
has to respect and obey everyone.
Remember - his place is at the bottom of the totem
pole. Bouncing him from
the top spot helps but if he thinks he's anywhere in the middle, you're
still going to have problems.
Think - you know your
dog and know what he's likely to do under most circumstances. Stay a step ahead of him and
anticipate his behavior so you can avoid or correct it. If he gets into the trash and
growls when scolded, make the trash can inaccessible. If he likes to bolt out the door
ahead of you, put a leash on him.
Make him sit and wait while you open the door and give him
permission - OKAY! - to go out.
If your alpha dog doesn't like to come when he's called (and he
probably doesn't!), don't let him outside off leash. Without a leash, you have no
control over him and he knows it.
Petting And Attention
Alpha dogs are used
to being fussed over. In a
real dog pack, subordinate dogs are forever touching, licking and grooming
the alpha dog. It's a show of respect and
submission. For now, until
his attitude has shown improvement, cut down on the amount of
cuddling your dog gets.
When he wants attention, make him SIT first, give him a few kind
words and pats, then stop. Go
back to whatever it was you were
doing and ignore him. If he
pesters you, tell him NO! in a firm voice and ignore him some more. Pet him when you want to, not just
because he wants you to.
Also, for the time being, don't get down on the floor or on your
knees to pet your dog. That,
too, is a show of submission.
Give praise, petting and rewards from a position that's higher
than the dog.
Games
If you or anyone
in your family wrestles, roughhouses or plays tug of war with your dog,
stop! These games encourage dogs to
dominate people physically and to use their teeth. In a dog pack or in a litter,
these games are more than just playing - they help to establish pack order
based on physical strength.
Your dog is already probably stronger and quicker than you
are. Rough, physical games
prove that to him. He doesn't
need to be reminded of it!
Find new games for
him to play. Hide & seek,
fetch or frisbee catching are more appropriate. Make sure you're the one who
starts and ends the game, not the dog. Stop playing before the dog gets
bored and is inclined to try to keep the ball or frisbee.
Where Does Your Dog
Sleep?
Not in your
bedroom and especially not on your bed!
Your bedroom is a special place - it's your "den". An alpha dog thinks he has a right
to sleep in your den because he considers himself your equal. In fact, he may have already taken
over your bed, refusing to get off when told or growling and snapping when
anyone asks him to make room for the humans. Until your dog's alpha problems
are fully under control, the bedroom should be off-limits! The same goes
for sleeping on furniture. If
you can't keep him off the couch without a fight, deny him access to the
room until his behavior and training has improved.
Crate Training
Dog crates have 1,000
uses and working with an alpha dog is one of them. It's a great place for your dog to
sleep at night, to eat in and just to stay in when he need to chill out
and be reminded that he's a dog.
The crate is your dog's "den". Start crate training by feeding
him his dinner in his crate.
Close the door and let him stay there for an hour afterwards. If he throws a tantrum, ignore
him. Don't let your dog out
of his crate until he's quiet and settled. At bedtime, show him an
irresistible goodie, tell him to SIT and when he does, throw the goodie
into the crate. When he dives
in for the treat, tell him what a good boy he is and close the
door.
Graduating From Boot Camp~~ What's
Next?
Just like in the
army, boot camp is really just an introduction to a new career and new way
of doing things. A tour through boot camp isn't going to solve your alpha
dog's problems forever. It's
a way to get basic respect from a dog who's been bullying you without
having to resort to physical force.
How long should boot
camp last? That depends on
the dog. Some will show an
improvement right away, others may take much longer. For really tough cookies, natural
leaders that need constant reminders of their place in the pack, Alpha Dog
Boot Camp will become a way of life.
Social climbers may need periodic trips through boot camp if you
get lax and accidentally let them climb back up a notch or two in the
family pack order.
How do you know if
you're making a difference?
If boot camp has been successful, your dog should start looking to
you for directions and permission.
He'll show an eagerness to please. Watch how your dog approaches
and greets you. Does he
come to you "standing tall", with his head and ears held high and
erect? It may look impressive
and proud but it means he's still alpha and you still have problems!
A dog who accepts
humans as superiors will approach you with his head slightly lowered and
his ears back or off to the sides. He'll "shrink" his
whole body a little in a show of submission. Watch how he greets all the
members of the family. If he
displays this submissive posture to some of them, but not others, those
are the ones who still need to work on their own alpha posture and methods. They should take him back through
another tour of boot camp with support from the rest of the
family.
Obedience Training
Once your dog has
begun to accept this new way of life and his new position in the family,
you should take him through an obedience course with a qualified
trainer. All dogs need to be
trained and alpha dogs need training most of all! You don't have to wait until he's
through with boot camp to start this training but it's important that he
respects at least one member of the family and is willing to take
direction from them.
Obedience class
teaches you to train your dog. It teaches you how
to be alpha, how to enforce commands and rules, how to get respect and to
keep it. All family
members who are old enough to understand and control the dog should
participate in the class.
Obedience training
is a lifelong process. One obedience course does not a
trained dog make! Obedience
commands need to be practiced and incorporated into your daily life. In a dog pack, the alpha animal
uses occasional reminders to reinforce his authority. Certain commands,
like DOWN/STAY, are especially effective, nonviolent reminders of a dog's
place in the family pack order and who's really in charge
here.
A well-trained,
obedient dog is a happy dog and a joy to live with. Dogs want to please and need a
job to do. Training gives
them the opportunity to do both.
A well-trained dog has more freedom. He can go more places and do more
things with you because he knows how to behave.
A well-trained dog
that's secure in his place within the family pack is comfortable and
confident. He knows what's
expected of him. He knows his limits and who his leaders are. He's free from the responsibility
of running the household and making decisions. He's free to be your loving
companion and not your boss.
He's free to be a dog - what he was born to be and what he always
wanted to be in the first place!
When You Need Professional
Help
If your dog has
already injured you or someone else or if you are afraid of your dog, you
should consult with a qualified professional dog trainer or behaviorist
before starting Canine Boot Camp. Your dog should also have an exam by
your vet to make sure there are no physical causes for his
behavior.
To find a qualified
trainer or behaviorist near you, contact your veterinarian or the American
Kennel Club for a list of obedience training clubs in your area.
Vicki Rodenberg
De Gruy, Chairman of the Chow Chow Club Inc.’s Welfare Committee, wrote
this article. It was uploaded with permission from the author. It may be
reproduced for non-profit purposes with author's credit
given.
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